**First a disclaimer: I love my Grandpa, he has Alzheimer's, and I know he did not intend to hurt my feelings... well maybe he thought it would motivate me??
I can remember my Grandpa commenting on my weight from the time I was 11, before I was overweight in any respect. He commented on it at my heaviest, and when I was at my lightest he said "You look good with the weight off you kid". At my heaviest he remarked "You're as big as the fridge!!", and finally last night, after losing 86lbs he says "You'll need to lose some weight!!" after my Aunt tells him I am training for a half-marathon.
I was having a really good day up to that point.
Now that I am more aware of how I react to things, it makes emotional eating harder (not impossible, but harder). Last night I had already planned ahead for an indulgent meal and dessert so I was feeling pretty full last night, no additional harm done there. Today however, was a new chance to screw up. After really thinking about it I decided I would get a treat, but then let it go and finish my day strong. I ended up having two treats and feeling horrible (chocolate scone and chocolate milk), but I decided to plan out the rest of my day and continue to finish strong. This I have done. I even have some spare calories that I am choosing not to eat.
How do you deal with hurtful comments? I suppose I'm just going to try to forget about it, and move on. Dwelling on it and soothing my emotions will not get me to where I want to be. The only person I will be hurting by saying "F**K it" would be ME, so why should I take his hurtful comments and then continue to hurt myself even more? This is what I have done in the past, and now looking back on it... it doesn't make any sense!!
This journey, good, bad and ugly, is about learning to deal with things in a positive manor more often than not, I wouldn't say "all the time" because really... who is perfect? Definitely NOT me, and not many people I know.
In the end, the comments hurt, but just like any judgement, they don't define me. Those hurtful comments only define who my Grandfather is/was.
Today I celebrate not being defeated by hurtful comments!!